I was horrified when I saw this story on the news this morning. It involves a child aged seven who was adopted in the US from Russia and his adopted mother put him on a plane on his own back to Russia complaining that he was ‘mentally unstable’. Now Russia is considering suspending adoptions to the US.
This is beyond heartbreaking. I have a lot of difficulties with international adoptions to be honest. I wonder if it is ever the best thing to take a child away from their home environment and culture and while I can accept that there may be some circumstances that it could work and be favourable and that there are some wonderful individual adopted parents – there is something of the ‘baby trafficking’ imperialist feel. Especially when they have their names changed to something ‘American’ with such impunity and may find themselves in smaller towns, isolated from contact with their own culture and with fears that the native background and culture might be whitewashed.
I think the key is proper checks, preparation and aftercare if these types of adoptions are to take place and so a lot of questions need to be asked (and are no doubt being asked) of the agency in particular and perhaps, just perhaps, the process is actually too short rather than over-lengthy.
Being able to pick a child with less care than one might pick a puppy is incredibly uncomfortable and immoral. Putting a child on an aeroplane – urgh. Beyond urgh.
I have no expertise in the field of adoption and I say that straight out but it seems a lot more common in the US for international adoptions to take place. I wonder if it is due to a more decentralised system of agencies which exist. I honestly don’t know the answer.
But whatever the answer is, this is not it.